Love to L (mur) is death, love to amort death, ammer is a pain loving soul. Every time love comes to death with death Even in the consciousness of a French psychoanalyst… Psychoanalyst Lacan, known as the French Freud, produced these words to describe desire and love. Jacques Lacan was born in Paris and received his medical education here. Although he is a psychoanalyst, he is one of the important names of the 20th century philosophy because he has made a name for himself both on psychology, theoretical philosophy and linguistics. He says that the unconscious is a separate language. Lacan deals with desire on the basis of mother-child. Beginning with the mother, the object of desire continues until the symbolic period. But in the symbolic period that Lacan is talking about, the child understands that the mother is another being, a separate individual. Father's (here the father may be symbolic; the child's life may not be a physical father, but a father symbol) here, and his relationship with the mother pushes him to an unstable ground in the relationship and communication with the opposite sex. Man is stuck between symbols. On the one hand, the individual tries to make sense of a strong feeling such as self-knowledge, seeking answers to questions about his gender, and on the other hand, desire. The desire is clear, will the person reach true happiness?
“Although the common view tends to think that beauty increases sexual desire, it's actually the opposite. Beauty paralyzes the desire and fascinates us so much that we cannot go after sexual desire, ”says Lacan. "There is no desire for love, other than realizing itself," says Halil Cibran. I will show you a common thought between a French psychoanalyst and a Lebanese poet, at other times, at other moments, in other thoughts, between other continents but under the same sky. Whether they coincide with the same post, or if someone pronounced them at the same time, we will not know it, but whenever I read these lines, I see that love and passion are not the culture. Beauty fascinates us, says Lacan, who talks about such a beauty that we cannot even think of desire… Is such a beauty possible? Famous poems were not written for a beautiful sake? Weren't those famous paintings a depiction of a beauty? What do people see when they love their loved ones? Her black hair, her white neck, her narrowed eyes. How does one feel when he approaches his beloved? The smell of your hair, the softness of your skin. Maybe that the longing coming from the wind like a wind makes people feel peace again in a body. Beauty must be fascinating, enough to outshine even desire. Cibran says that love has no desire, that love will exist only by self-fulfillment without a will. It does not say there is no desire, the desire of love says to realize itself. In this view, Lacan does not show that there is no desire in love, but that beauty will not awaken the desire in us, and vice versa. In the same lines, east and west make us taste love and desire. Maybe just like two different people meeting in the same place on the line of life. The lives that seem impossible are coming together with desire and love.
According to Lacan, desire started with the relationship of the individual with his mother in childhood, according to Freud, the individual came under the domination of id and developed various complexes when he met with desire. it starts when it's very young. Perhaps we are not in that maturity in meaning of desire, but the desire takes over us. “The only thing we feel guilty about is our back steps about our desires,” says Lacan, and it is not a mistake to meet desire incorrectly in childhood. We should not feel guilty about it. But the back steps we take about desire make us guilty. I'll show you why desire can be guilt. While Lacan's words are not in the middle, even Lacan is a painting made when he is not on earth.
"The Kiss" by Francesco Hayez in 1859. We see a woman with whiteness, a symbol of purity, a man with a fedora, and two people. But as if there are no men and women in the middle, it is portrayed as a couple, one size, and even its shadows are single. The desire Lacan speaks about shows the integrity of two people in one body. But there is an expression of guilt with desire. The woman's hand was held by her shoulder as if she wanted to push the man. “The only thing we would feel guilty about was our step back from desire”, maybe it is the side that is dissatisfied with this kiss, the woman holds the shoulder of the man for the step back. The detail that carries the picture to another dimension is the figure of the man reflected on the wall. Is someone coming? Maybe someone who should not see this innocently kiss is approaching. Is someone going or is someone checking around for the innocent couple? Of course we will not know it. Socrates is right "knowing love knows the truth".
"Unexpected emotions never die, buried alive in the ground, and then horribly get there," says Freud. "Everything that is not buried according to the method is afterwards, hoses, the most love," says Lacan. I say that every demand, every move, every expectation of man is for love and we should never be ashamed of it.
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Halil Cibran- Ermiş Gezmiş page 20